Rough Experience Leads To Personal Development- Tyler Perry’s Story

Indeed rough experience somethings leads to personal development, Tyler Perry is one man who is supposed to be depressed and traumatized up till today.

Everything he passed through in the hands of his father contributed to who he is today, he became an adult from childhood.

Having such an awful experience and several cases of molestation as a kid is enough to throw him off balance.

Indeed, no one should judge a condition he/she has not been into, he or has every reason to be traumatized even up till now.

He could have decided to keep complaining about the kind of rough experience he had, but he decided to forgive his dad even when he did not apologize and move on with his life.

No matter how bad things are, no matter the condition you have endured, it is not enough reason to go about tying yourself to the past.

Nobody has the power to change the past, but how you handle the past will determine how your tomorrow will look.

Anything you cannot change should not keep you stagnated, even when he put his entire savings into his first theatre production, only 30 people attended the show.

But he never gave up, instead, he doubled his efforts, and failure had no other option than to pave way for success in his life.

One thing I have learned about successful people is that they never give up. If Tyler Perry could turn out to be a global figure today after everything he has been through, then you don’t have any excuse.

I am here again today to inspire some with Tyler Perry’s success story.

Tyler Perry as one of the four children had a very difficult and rough childhood, for years he suffered brutal physical abuse from his father and several sexual cases of abuse from several adults.


Tyler Perry

He once described his father as a man whose answer to everything was to beat it out of you. 

One time while his mother was out, he described the beating from his father, “ he got the vacuum cleaner extension cord and trapped me in a room, and beat me until the skin was coming off my back”

To this day, I don’t know what will make a person do something like that to a child, but thank God because in my mind I left and I don’t feel it anymore.

I learned to use my gift, as it was my imagination that let me escape. Tyler Perry was 5 or 6 years old the first time he was molested.

Tyler Perry

He later endured several molestations from a male nurse and a male he knew from church, when he was 10 years old, he was also molested by a friend of his mother.

Growing up, Tyler said, he never felt safe, after one of the many vicious beatings from his father, Tyler blacked out for 3days.

Every single day, he lived in agony that something will make his father angry, his living condition and his depression, got so bad that young Tyler took drastic measures.

At one point, he even attempted suicide by sliding his wrist, this was an effort to escape his difficult situation.

In his 20s he eventually forgave, though his father never apologized, when he was 16, he changed his name to Tyler in order to divide himself from his father.

He also dropped out of high school but later he earned the General Equivalence Diploma(GED) before discovering what his true passion is.

He held a series of unfulfilling jobs, so how his life changed 

One time, Perry was very inspired by one comment while watching an episode of Oprah Winfrey’s talk show about how writing about difficult and rough experiences could lead to personal development.

Because of that, he started writing a series of later to himself, which became a foundation for the musical, “I know I have been changed”.

Later in 1992 he wrote, produced, and started his first theatre production “I know I have been changed”.

Tyler Perry

At that moment in that show, Tyler perry put all his savings but it failed miserably the run lasted for just one weekend and only 30 people came to watch the show.

But he didn’t give up and kept on with the production, because of that he had to work more odd and unfulfilling jobs.

He has to sleep in his car just to get by, but some years later on its seventh run, the show finally became a success and opened huge doors for him.

Since then, perry continued his extremely successful and fulfilling career as a director, a writer, and an actor.

In fact, in 2011, Perry was named Forbes’s highest-paid man in entertainment, after Perry made 17 movies in 10 years which have a lifetime growth of 845 million dollars worldwide and seven TV shows, 20 stage plays and the new york time best selling book.

Perry said,” one of the difficult things about being a dreamer, is the fear that the dream will never happen”

Tyler Perry

He said “I am here as a living witness to tell you that your dreams can come through, you can’t give up”

Tyler Perry said “I am here to let you know that everything can work for your good, the time that you are spending on that job that you think is a dead-end, is not.

You are being prepared, but just like I was, I was a shoe shine boy, I walked as a bill collector, I used car salesman in housekeeping and in a hotel, they all were preparing me for where I am now.

What do their things have to do with where I am now. I am glad you asked. I am able to use the skills that I learned.

I shined shoes so I know how to shine my shoes if I need them to look nice, selling used cars was a great way to learn how to close deals, bill collection got me great negotiation skills, and working in a five-star hotel taught me a lot about travel.

Tyler Perry

Every experience you had is to teach you something. Today while you are at work, don’t be frustrated, look around you and ask God what are you there to learn and how will it be part of your future dream.

Honor that job, and do the best you can because God will bless you for honoring something that belongs to another.

You have to understand that what you may perceive to be a failure may very well be an opportunity to learn, grow, get better, and prepare for the next level.

If you find the lesson from what you perceived to be a failure, then you will never fail at anything.

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