SEX: Do you even know that men tend to find it hard to understand women’s bodies and how/what really turns them on, yes they actually feel that way and that is why most relationships are filled with so many disputes.
It is a total turn-off if your partner fails to satisfy your sexual needs as a woman, and most of the time it is caused by us( women).
These 5 sex mistakes that I am about to discuss here have been confirmed by different-sex experts, and they concluded that these are most of the mistakes women make in the other room and they also this article includes the remedies to those problems.
Not Initiating Sex With Your Partner:
Honestly, the fear of being labeled aggressive has made many of our ladies take or rather swallowed up what is meant to be discussed because they worry more about their ladylike behavior, and as such, they don’t wanna come out too pushy or too strong. Les Parrot, psychology and the author of Crazy Good Sex says that failing to talk about sex with your partner is one of the biggest mistakes you will make as a woman.
Les Parrot went further saying that most guys feel like they are always the initiator and that sets disequilibrium on the passion scale in the relationship. Hehe, let me burst your bubbles, just like women, men also want to be pursued by their partner, hope you are getting me. That’s the equality we are talking about.
Dr. Ruth, a psychosexual therapist at New York University says that holding onto outdated ideas about sex roles also inhibits satisfaction with our sexual relationship. You can imagine a relationship where you don’t talk about your sexual desire as a lady, and still complains when you don’t get satisfied sexually, like where is it done? Always show interest by taking the first step, and trust me your partner will likely love it.
2) Thinking/Worrying About What You Look Like:
I think that this is the major killer, how on earth will you be having sex with your partner and be thinking about how you look at the same time? For kingdom’s sake, this will simply hinder you from enjoying yourself and finally, it will ruin your chances of achieving orgasm. Hehe, you must give yourself the chance of achieving orgasm sweetheart, allow yourself to enjoy the act, don’t go running your mind through different kinds of stuff like your belly, makeup, etc. during sex, men want their wives/lady abandon themselves in the sex play, and that’s not likely if you are anxious about your physical looks.
You must have heard about Helen Fisher, a cultural anthropologist and the author of the book called “Why Him, Why Her. She said that funny enough, men don’t notice half the things women obsess about. Fisher advises that rather than worry about the shape of your waist and hip, you should worry about your energy level and enthusiasm and interest In him.
3) Assuming Sex Is Casual For A Man:
Hello, look here! you have to let go of the old-fashioned notions, like, women are not sexual or that sex is just sex to men, look, for some men, sex means so much to them, don’t just minimize it.
Fisher and her colleagues concluded after some research of university students engaging in one-night stands, the result shows that the number of men is just as serious about sex and relationships as women, about 50% of women and 52% of men who went into one night stands did so hoping to create a longer relationship, this simply means that you should never assume that men are not just romantic.
4) Not Giving Them Guidance:
The good news here is that men love to please/satisfy women, but how on earth can they achieve this if you don’t tell them to want they want? As a woman, you should take responsibility for your sexual encounters, which mean it is not magical for a man to bring a woman to orgasm if she does not take responsibility for her sexual experience, this is not a joke, no matter how close you are to your lover, he can’t just know what you need without letting him know. Research shows that talking directly about sex, what you like and don’t like makes men feel very comfortable . one of the secrets of doing this is simply telling them without killing their ego, they will really appreciate that.
5) Getting Upset When They Suggest Something New:
See! Don’t go taking things so personal when your man wants to try out something new, this does not mean that he is unhappy with your sex life. It is natural to spice things up with your partner after being together for a while.
However, nobody should feel obligated to do things they don’t wanna do in the personal and intimate area of sexuality, if your spouse wants you to try something outside your morals, make it clear that it is off your limit, and explain why(very important) and make sure you do this in a loving way as best as you can