RELATIONSHIP: It is no longer news that Men are from Mars and women are from Venus’ and this makes creating a perfect yin-yang balance in our relationships a very difficult tough task.I am not disputing the fact that every relationship has its share of ups and downs and as such couples have to sail through it together. Hehe, as a lady there are certain things you might be doing wrong. Whether you have been married to your Mr. right or you are recently dating your Mr. Nice Guy, there are still some heavy mistakes ladies/women are still making in a relationship, they are summarised under the subsequent paragraph, Read on
1 Do not forgive every-single-time
Everybody deserves a second chance, but anything that becomes an annoying pattern should be considered a red flag in the relationship. If you have put down your foot and your partner continues making the same mistake despite that, then it is high time you either leave the partner or seek professional help. On the other hand,
women also end up compromising and apologizing many times even when they are not at fault just to save the relationship. Madam, we are not saying that you should be too rigid, but then know when the mistake becomes a decision
2 Do not spend all your time with him
Yes, you heard me right, allow yourselves to miss each other, absence they say makes the heart grow fonder. You will not understand me until you give it a trial.
My fellow Ladies please consciously take some ‘me time’ out of your ‘we schedules’ and spoil yourselves too. A relationship is actually hard work and it often yields results if you take some break, pause for a while.
3 Do not stop looking after yourself
This is very important baby girl, Hit the gym and exercise regularly, this actually would keep your mind-body active and also boost your self-image.
Look up here! If you are mad at your spouse, sweat it out in the gym rather than nagging at your boyfriend or husband. This would not just make you look brighter and you might also end up burning a few calories in the process, this is just a win-win situation for you!
4 Do not lose your identity
As a lady, you should have your own identity apart from your spouse’s own.
Make time out for yourself and utilize it by doing things that would make you feel empowered like a hobby or something you have been thinking to focus on.
5 Be financially independent as a Lady
This has killed many relationships/ marriages, while dating, your boyfriend should not be your source of income, engage yourself with something. Considering our societal structure, though men are supposed to support their spouse monetarily, it is also advisable for women to be financially independent, being financially stable actually gives you a sense of accomplishment. Money is not male, read this one again!!
6 Minimize Your Transparency:
Don’t forget that the more transparent you are the more vulnerable you get. “don’t have that mentality that if you are not sharing every detail with your partner then they are not being true to yourself, it is not bad to share things with your partner while in a relationship but please let there be a limit to what you can share. Your boyfriend shouldn’t be the only person with whom you share everything,” says Dr. Ahuja. Most importantly, check their level of maturity before blabbing your mouth
7 Don’t be too emotionally attached
It is no doubt that being emotionally attached to your boyfriend or husband is natural, but then a woman should never rely emotionally only on their spouse Dr. Ahuja advises, having at least two different support systems a bad thing to do in your relationship, as long as they are telling you the plain truth, of course, you should be able to differentiate right from wrong. Make sure that you trust them very well before sharing things with them.
8. Do not have blind faith
We all know that trust is one of the basic elements of any relationship, but then keep your eyes open for any red-flags and sudden behavioral changes in your partner. According to Dr. Ahuja, “There would be certain changes in your partner’s behavior; this will not happen overnight and that needs to be noticed”. It does not mean that you become insecure in your relationship; just keep an open eye to the red-flags and address any issue that comes up. Most importantly, do not forget that communication is the key to any healthy relationship.