RELATIONSHIP; Sir, I have been in and out of so many relationships I don’t know what is wrong?
I am getting frustrated because once it gets close to settling down the relationship ends.
I know some of you who will be reading this find themselves in this situation both male and female.
It seems that no relationship is working out for you, you are even tired and now just want to remain single because you are tired of the hurt that comes with it.
I want to be totally honest with you so I won’t be leaving anything out.
Whether you want to believe it or not I just want you to have it in mind and if you feel like working on it them good for you.
There are 3 possible reasons you are unable to sustain a relationship and take it to the next level of marriage.
So let’s look at these possible reasons for experiencing a failed relationship.
1. YOUR VILLAGE PEOPLE ARE AT WORK.
Not really your village people. Lol. What I meant to say is that it could be a spiritual problem. Well, it could still be from your village.
Sorry, I am starting with this. I know some of you may not be spiritual or don’t believe in spiritual things but I can’t help it but tell you the truth that some people are single today because they have someone somewhere manipulating their dating life.
You are a young man or lady, successful business-wise, you have good character and you probably believe in God. So what could be the problem then?
Well, they are chances that its something else but I won’t rule out the fact it could be spiritual.
I am not saying start going from church to church for answers. What I am saying is to pray more and connect with your creator for answers, another option should be to seek out the spiritual authority in your life for more guidance.
Don’t start jumping from pillar to post for prayers, that won’t help you because you might fall into the wrong hands. Instead, start with your local pastor or prayerfully seek out a genuine man of God.Relationship
2. YOU HAVE A REPEATED PATTER OF HOW YOU CHOOSE PEOPLE YOU DATE.
I would at this point just touch this a little.
This repeated pattern involves what you look out for when accepting someone of asking someone out. You do this repeatedly in all the relationships you have ever been and they end almost the same way.
This repeated pattern could be good but in your case, it’s very bad because it’s either negative or toxic without you realizing it because you think it’s normal or good.
You remember the saying that goes, you can’t be repeating a thing and be expecting a different result.Relationship
An example of this could be as a Christian you keep dating people who are not born again. Or because you had daddy/mummy issues growing up you love dating older men/women that you would see as a daddy/mummy figure.
Another dangerous pattern is wanting your new partners to treat you like your very first ex did. Many are finding it difficult to sustain a relationship because they compare their new patter to a particular ex.
Note, your new partners will always leave if they find out you expect they to live up to your expectation based on how someone else treated you because at that point you don’t see them for who they are but who you want them to be, in that case, your ex.
3. YOU HAVE a SERIOUS CHARACTER PROBLEM THAT PUSHES PEOPLE AWAY.
Last but not least.
Many peoples are so irresponsible that they blame others for everything wrong in their relationship.
I sit down counseling and I see people blaming others alone and never accept the part they played wrong.
When you ask them to come with their partner for counseling they disappear because they don’t want you to hear the other part of their story.
These people when a partner goes, cook up stories that make them feel good. They start lying to themselves because they want to play victims instead of analyzing why the relationship field and picking up the lesson from it while accepting the part they played wrong that led to the end of the relationship.
Some persons have constantly lost relationships because of their anger issue, some because they believe they can never be wrong, some because they can’t apologize, some because they are too materialistic, some because they have self-esteem issues, some because their words are toxic or they exhibit violent behavior.
This has constantly cost them their relationship. But instead of learning and working on themselves, they look for others to blame.
Listen up. If this is you above, you need to really calm down and start working on yourself else you will keep having frustration in relationship related matter.
And for you that have never been unable to sustain a relationship generally, take a look at the 3 things I mentioned about and figure out which could be the reason why you constantly have failed relationships.
Get to work and start your healing.
Remember it’s key to give your life to Christ if you want to enjoy a Godly relationship.