REAL MEN: Dear Ladies, how are we doing? This is for the ladies who have been engrossed in waiting for Mr. Right or working too hard to be ideal for Mr. Right. Remember that “No one is perfect” and that “trying so hard makes you sound really stupid.”
Men, like women, can be very frustrated and indecisive at times. However, one thing we can all keep in mind when dealing with problems involving what one wishes or desires in another person is the fact that “real recognizes real.” A lady who wishes to attract the right man‘s heart must understand what it is that causes a man to go from loving your physical appearance (i.e. your body type, curves, skin color, etc.) to feeling indifferent about being around or around her to wanting and needing her on a deeper level.
I’ll try to paint a realistic image of how it is in a man’s mind so you can understand what it takes to cause and breed this type of bond. And I’m talking about a Real man (one who is mature and grounded on all levels: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual), not a man who is all about the container and not the material.
Here are some characteristics that a real man seeks in a woman,
There is something about a self-assured woman that attracts men. A self-assured woman knows who she is and what she values, and she maintains that identity in her relationships with others. She trusts in herself and understands how valuable she is on her own. She is not characterized by her marital status, physical appearance, or sex appeal. She should not believe the propaganda that her worth is determined by what she does, but rather by who she is. Since a confident woman understands that her worth is based solely on who she is in Christ, there is no reason for her to flirt or flaunt her wares.
Flirting and flaunting will undoubtedly draw a certain kind of guy to your side, but you’ll have to keep flirting and flaunting for the rest of your life if you want to keep his attention. A genuine man would be drawn to you because of who you are, not what you can give him. And being true to yourself would be what you need to do to hold him. That is what stable marriages are supposed to be like.
Life is a relentless challenge, whether you are wealthy or poor. You’ll only face new obstacles, but they’ll be challenges nevertheless. It is critical to be a reliable contributing member of the household, the workforce if possible, and the family. When it comes to household chores, most quality men are willing to break old stereotypes, particularly if his wife is stepping up in other places to compensate for his shortcomings. Not resenting your man’s flaws but still elevating your responsibilities in ways where he falls short is a VERY desirable quality that shows us you have our backs just as much as we do yours.
It’s difficult to accept that being “true” is appealing to a guy. It’s convenient for women to believe that being “real” makes them less than the others when we see advertisements and magazines filled with airbrushed skin and improved bodies. But the fact is that real men are drawn to women who show their true selves. This “reality” expresses itself in certain physical forms. Obviously, looking beautiful is a good thing, but there is something about the attractiveness of a real woman that far surpasses the cartoon Barbie version of ourselves that so many people wish for and believe in.
Of course, men are searching for a woman who is authentic not only in her looks but also in her personality. There is no need to act when it comes to attracting a genuine man. They are not looking for a woman who pretends to be interested in athletics, cars, sex or anything else she believes her man is interested in. They want a woman who is fully herself, quirks and flaws and all. Ladies, these are the characteristics that distinguish you from any other lady.
Many women falsely think that men want a “weaker” woman who will make them feel smarter and more strong. That couldn’t be farther from the facts. Real men want a woman who inspires them because she is accomplishing amazing things in her own life. They like a woman who has a life outside of being in a relationship. Freedom and performance should not frighten a great man. What counts to a man is that a woman has room in her life for a wonderful relationship and that she is grounded and present when she is with him.
The easiest way to convey this to a man is to keep yourself occupied and not unexpectedly make him your world. Don’t neglect your own desires, obligations, or friends in order to be with him. Then, when you’re with him, really BE with him – have fun and pay attention to him and what you’re doing together.
Being open about your emotions, insecurities, desires, and dislikes is essential for developing a deep friendship on several levels. A man cannot form a long-term, lifelong relationship with a woman he cannot trust. It also demonstrates that she would rather lie than figure out what you’re doing or saying behind his back, as well as a great deal of disrespect, which adds to contempt. A true man seeks a woman who recognizes the devastation lurking beneath unspoken desires. She is upfront and polite when it comes to setting limits and the pace of her relationships early on.
SEXY NOT A SLUT
Not just the act of having sex, but all that goes along with it. If a long-term relationship is created, many women slip into a comfort zone in which they allow the freak inside to return to its closet. It is important to be able to fulfill your man’s sexual impulses and make him reciprocate in order to preserve long-term satisfaction (NB. married couples). Don’t be afraid to tell him what to do or where to go, and don’t be afraid to express your wishes to him. It is beneficial to start this dialog early in a relationship. Inform him about what you do and do not wish to do in the bedroom, and notify him if/when the list changes.
Keep in mind that you both have the right to be satisfied and fulfilled! There is a widespread misunderstanding among men that the ideal woman would dress slutty. Guys like attractive ladies, and there’s a big difference between revealing a little skin and wearing a micro miniskirt to dinner with your boss. The ideal woman knows how to be attractive while remaining stylish and confident. She dresses in only the perfect amount of sassiness without revealing too much. The ideal woman will flirt with her eyes as well as her body.
There is a significant distinction between a passionate woman and a woman who is too sentimental. The former is the kind that men flock to, while the latter is the type that they flee from and never look back. If there is one thing I learn from men over and over, it is that women ought to be less emotionally motivated. This could be a gender misconception, but as much as I despise admitting it, they could be on to something. Emotions are such an important aspect of human beings, for both men and women. However, a major issue occurs when women (or men) allow their feelings to take over. It is important that we are motivated by what we know and balanced by what we experience.
Feelings can never be allowed to steer the ship. So now that we’ve covered what passion isn’t, let’s talk about what it is: Being passionate means live a purposeful life, encouraging the heart and life to be motivated by important things, and investing in positive things. It entails setting goals, trusting in wishes, and adhering to your beliefs. It entails being characterized and propelled by virtues such as justice, compassion, repentance, charity, and grace. It entails seeking healing in your own life as well as in the world around you. Living a life of passion is vital because it will permeate every aspect of your life, including your relationships.
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It’s time to rethink the traits you believe you need to please a man as a woman. It’s time to say no to the allure of sex and start believing the real admiration from a man to a woman comes only when you start respecting yourself. True men seek real women who will embody the qualities of a caring God—a God who created us to be trusting, optimistic, sincere, and beautiful in every way. Women should aspire to be like Him (God) in everything they do.
There are many things men want in a woman, but these are the major thing you have to possess as a lady.